Wednesday, August 15, 2007

A Too True Assessment ...

Your Enneagram core type is POINT 8 - THE BOSS OR PROTECTOR
Early in life, Protectors learned to become strong and powerful by hiding their vulnerability.

They developed a toughness and forcefulness that allowed them to rely on their own instincts.

Control and dominance of their personal space, protecting the weak and innocent, and gaining respect by being strong are among the 8's highest values. People of this type appear armored, easy to anger, and confrontational at the slightest provocation. They are unaware of their intensity, tuning instead to their core friendliness, generosity and ability to energize others. 8's are great leaders, as long as you're on their side!

Strengths: Courageous, decisive, strong-willed, protective, loyal, powerful, action-oriented, assertive, fair, intuitive, energetic.

Challenges: Belligerent, blaming, defiant, bullying, impulsive, dictatorial when crossed, easy to anger, tendency to overindulge in food, drugs, etc.

Other types to consider: Your wings - Type 7 and Type 9 Your stress type - Type 5 Your security type - Type 2 Look-alike types - Type 1, Type 4, and Type 6

Finding your "center" is a first step toward understanding your Enneagram type.
The 9 personalities of the Enneagram are arranged within three triads or centers: the Feeling triad; the Thinking triad; and the Instinctive or Gut triad. Each triad contains three personality types that reflect the assets and liabilities of their triad, e.g., type 2 has particular strengths and weaknesses involving its feelings, hence its location in the Feeling triad. The 5's assets and liabilities involve thinking, which is why it's located in the Thinking triad…and so on for each of the types.

The elegance of this arrangement results from a kind of dialectic containing a thesis, antithesis and synthesis of the theme of each triad, so that one of the types over expresses the core attribute of the triad; one under expresses it; and the third is most out of touch with that aspect.
Because 8's are gut-based, they act from instinct, and tend to over-express anger. Forceful and aggressive by nature, they are extroverts who tend toward too much, too loud, too many.

Transformation of these aggressive tendencies occurs when 8's delay expressing their feelings (especially anger) so they can tune into their vulnerability. By acknowledging their intensity and its impact on others, they can gradually learn to moderate it. With greater calm, the 8's deeper feelings of tenderness can finally surface.

Take action: Watch out for unrealistic expectations of yourself and others. Work at validating, appreciating and recognizing other people's efforts. Notice your tendency to fight against dependency needs by controlling, manipulating, blaming, or maintaining a one-up position.

Instead, allow yourself to feel vulnerable and uncertain occasionally, just as we all do. Practice delaying spontaneous expressions of anger. In the gap, work on listening to other people's feelings and needs. Exchange control and dominance of your space and your relationships by negotiating clear boundaries that allow a win-win result. But watch for your urge to break rules or violate those boundaries as soon as they are made. Realize that sparring or arguing may turn you on, but it gets misinterpreted by non-8's in your life. You may need to teach those close to you to hold their ground and speak their truths when confronted by you.

Beware of excesses in your lifestyle and workstyle that can lead to exhaustion and alienation from others.

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